Monday, July 18, 2011

"I would NEVER show my arms!"

Hey Guys!! I know it has been a while. If you follow me on Tumblr, you would know that I was on Vacation in Florida for about a week, which is one of the reasons I haven't posted anything. I hope everyone is doing well!

This is going to be a different kind of post. No pictures, No outfit, No shoes, just words. I have received several emails from my readers commending me on wearing sleeveless tops and showing off my arms. So many have asked me how I've become so comfortable with wearing sleeveless tops and dresses and to be honest, I just stopped caring what other people thought.

There was a time that I was a little uncomfortable with my arms (they were a lot smaller back then too lol) but it wasn't necessarily because of how I felt, it was the people (my cousin, mainly, who is also plus size) around me saying "Aren't you going to throw a cardigan over that?", "You should probably wear a blazer over that shirt", etc. However, once I became comfortable with how I looked, I realized that If I thought It looked fine, why would I need to "cover up" just because someone else thought I should? Not to mention, who wants to wear a HOT Black Cardigan in the summer time? I know I don't, and it looks ridiculous if you ask me.

You definitely have to be comfortable with yourself and your body to pull off the clothing that you want to wear, if not you will limit yourself in so many ways! I don't think I have the best arms in the world, but because I don't limit myself to only short and long sleeve shirts, people see my confidence and they commend me for that. Confidence is key.

So all in all, there is no magic anything that is going to make you feel comfortable with showing off your arms, legs, tummy, etc. There is nothing that I or anyone else can tell you to make that happen. Of course I am happy that I and other plus size bloggers can encourage you to take more risk with fashion and put aside some of the negative things that society has to say about your body, but you have to come to a point where you STOP CARING WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOUR BODY. If you think you look fine with showing your arms, do it. If you like the way your legs look, wear a skirt/dress or shorts. Do what makes you feel comfortable and what you like!

Just remember, "Someone's opinion of you does not have to become your reality."

I hope this was a little helpful :)

Leave your comments and questions! I would love to know what you all think about this topic, also share your stories. You never know who you can inspire!


  1. Great post I agree wholeheartedly!

  2. Thanks for posting this! I had always been uncomfortable showing off my arms, then it just clicked one day when I was talking with a coworker, who is also plus sized and always wore strapless sleeveless tops. She said that people are just going to look at her and see she's fat regardless of what she's wearing. If she had a cardigan on it wouldn't be like people would think she's skinny and then when she took it off then they'd be like "omg what happened how did she gain 50 pounds in 2 seconds?" Why bother with that and just be comfortable

  3. Yes!! Great Post! It's not about if your arms or out or how big or small they are. It's about how your clothes fit and how confident you feel. Confidence is sexy!

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  4. I'm a new follower, and love your blog because of your style and confidence.

    This post is right on time for me! I've always been self-conscious about my legs. After I tried to wear jeans the entire time I was in the Bahamas (and almost DIED in that heat LOL), I said I needed to stop trippin'.

    I admit that I still think about it every now and then, even when I was about to post my first outfit pic on my blog. But like you said--stop caring about what others think (or what you THINK you think they're thinking LOL, this is what I do) of your body!

    Excellent message. Keep showin' those arms, mama!!

  5. Amen to that!!! It is so true because I have had family memembers say the same to me, so I just say what the hell! I look good!!!

  6. Girl! I used to be hesitant to show my arms, too. They were a lot smaller back in the day and like you, I had people suggesting I cover my arms with a sweater or jacket. I am so glad I am over that! First, I realized that I couldn't allow other peoples hangups to be my hangups. Secondly, who was I foolin' with my arms covered? Like a jacket or sweater was in stealth mode, hiding my jiggle. Lastly, I got tired of sweating, while smaller girls with arms just as un-toned as mine, were coolin' in the furnace. I go sleeveless, with pride now.

  7. "I just stopped caring what other people thought". Im trying! Luv the blog!


  8. You just made me cry.

    As a serial summer cardigan wearer I think I need to change my stripes. I am going to bare my arms.

    Because lets face it, my arms ain't getting any younger. They need to shine right now. x

  9. Let the church say AMEN!! I could care less who doesnt like all my loveliness of 200 lbs because I do!!

    Editor & Chic

  10. I have always hidden my arms, even when I was smaller. Until this summer in NYC, I was like "it's too hot to be self-conscious" and let my wings show. I used to always hide, not anymore. This post really resonated with me. I'm beautiful and I'm not going to cover up for anyone! Kudos love!

  11. Great Post! You look beautiful ♥ & i love this Blog!!! xoxo